For the past 25+ years, I have coached clients on dating---in the old days (90’s and early 2000’s) with matchmaking and in the 2010’s and 2020’s with online dating. Sometimes it is hard to remember that there are over 100 million singles in the US alone. But every week I see someone fall in love---and that makes me feel so happy.

So here we go with tips:

1. An Energetic Dating Profile

This is a breezy, fun read profile. Energetic? Yes, you can read energy crackling on a page! My best example is Men’s Health Magazine (yes, I’m female and I read it!!) ---they understand their audience and write in short bursts and blurbs. This captivates a weary reader and gives info in a fast almost bullet pointed fashion. Write an exciting dating profile, caution to the wind!

2. Pick the right dating site/app.

If you do not, success may be elusive. Just because your BF in NYC used Coffee Meets Bagel to meet her boyfriend, does not mean that will work for you in Dallas. Do research, do homework. If a couple of friends successfully in your hometown met their partners online (key word here is successfully, not your friends who are crucifying online dating), yes, definitely ask them which site!

3. Be unique in using Prompts

Online Dating Apps that don’t use longer profiles give you the only opportunity to share about yourself in under 100- or 250-character responses by asking a prompt question. Be mindful with your words and also note that full sentences are not a necessity here.

 Bonus tip: Don’t pick the ones like “For fun I like to….” You know why people pick this one? It’s the first one on the list of 20-30 prompts---and the answer is usually so boring such as “Travel and Family”. Oh, ok. Wow, now we know so much about you. (lol) How about instead----“If I could teleport anywhere this weekend”. Now, singles rarely use this one as it’s (yes, you guessed) toward the bottom of list but the people who answer generally have fun and intriguing answers---they put some thought into this one!

4. Answer quickly!

Ok, let’s say, it’s a Saturday night, you are online, perusing potential dates, and a message pops up for you. Maybe it’s someone you had “liked” or just a random person who had liked you. Answer! No, you don’t have to wait 3 hours or 3 days---most dating sites and apps show when you are online which in this case is a good thing---now you can get a conversation going and not waste precious time.

5. Think/Speak Positively

This will exude confidence on your date---and confidence is sexy!